戴尔·卡耐基/Daleegie
戴尔·卡耐基（1888—1955），美国著名的心理学家和人际关系学家。卡耐基开创的“人际关系训练班”遍布世界各地。他以超人的智慧、严谨的思维，在道德、精神和行为准则上指导万千读者，给予人们安慰、鼓舞，使读者从中汲取力量，从而生活，开创崭新的人生。早期著作《人性的光辉》《语言的突破》《美好的人生》《人性的优点》曾被译成28种文字，其中《人性的弱点》一书，是继《圣经》之后世界出版史上第二畅销书！
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1.grouch[graut?]n.不高兴的人
2.eliate[ilieit]v.清除
3.iserable[iz?r?bl]adj.痛苦的
Youthaveagoodtietgpeopleifyouexpectthetohaveagoodtietgyou.
Ihaveaskedthoandsofbesspeopletosileatsooneeveryhourofthedayforaweekandtheocssandtalkabouttheresults.Howdiditwork?Let’ssee...HereisaletterfroWilliaB.Stehardt,aNewYorkstockbroker.Hiscaseisntisoted.Infact,itistypicalofhundredsofcases.
“Ihavebeenarriedforhteenyears,”wroteMr.Stehardt,“andallthattiIseldosiledatywifeorspokeodozenwordstoherfrothetiIgotupuntilIwasreadytoleaveforbess.IwasoneofthewroucheswhoeverwalkeddownBroadway.
“Whenyouaskedtoakeatalkaboutyexperiehsiles,IthoughtIwouldtryitforaweek.Sothe,whilebgyhair,Ilookedatygugtheirrorandsaidtoyself,‘Bill,yogtowipetheswloffthatsourpsofyourstoday.Yogtosile.Andyogtobegrightnow.’AsIsatdowntobreakfast,Igreetedywifewitha‘Go,ydear’,andsiledasIsaidit.”
“Youwarhatsheightbesurprised.Well,youuiatedherreae,andIkeptitupevery.”
“ThisgedattitudeofebroughtorehappesstoourhotheoonthssceIstartedthantherewasdurgthestyear.”
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Youdon’tfeellikesilg?Thenwhat?Twothgs.First,forceyourselftosile.Ifyouarealone,forceyourselftowhistleorhuatune.Actasifyouwerealreadyhappy,andthatwilltendtoakeyouhappy.HereisthewaythepsychologistandphilosopherWilliaJasputit: